Is this you?

You would like to take things less personally. You want to trust others more easily and take in their care for you. Perhaps you experience anxiety with regard to a sense of security in your relationships and would like the relief that comes from a sense of confidence. 

Or perhaps, you struggle to engage at a greater level of connection and warmth and would like to learn strategies for a new way forward.

What is it all about?

When you are grounded in emotional security, your relationships change dramatically. Instead of being potential sources of hurt, threat, or confusion they become sources of caring, joy, and support.

Emotional security is a relational confidence in which you are experiencing a felt sense of trust that you can be received and held with care by others and that all aspects of your experience are acceptable and can be met with care and comfort. Emotional security is often confused with enmeshment, which is a push for closeness or merging that is driven by insecurity.

Understanding what contributes to emotional security for you and others allows you to build this important resource. While there are some universal behaviors that can contribute to security, such as eye gazing, receiving care and comfort, and consistent responsiveness, it’s essential to know what is most easily received for you. When you know what you can receive easily, you can consciously strengthen your sense of emotional security both within yourself and within a relationship.

There are multiple articles on emotional security in our archives. This one is a good place to start.

How it Works 

For each class we will begin with five minutes of guided meditation. I will present a particular concept and skill. Then you will practice the skill in a short structured exercise. You will hear questions and comments from previous participants both clarifying the material and debriefing exercises.

You will follow along with the video (60-90 minutes) and your handout. Some exercises you can do on your own and some are best done with another person.

As you take the course you can ask questions via email:

While you are taking the course, you can also book a discounted session with an MCD Companion for one-on-one live support.

Thank you so much for your participation and dedicating your time and energy to this important work.

About Mindful Compassionate Dialogue

Mindful Compassionate Dialogue (MCD) naturally supports you in creating the relationships you want by integrating the wisdom and skills of three powerful modalities: Hakomi, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and mindfulness.

Each modality contributes something unique to the process. Hakomi offers clarity about reactivity and healing. NVC provides a method for achieving self-responsibility, skillful communication, and agency. And mindfulness adds the stable attention and clear focus needed to continuously refine your understanding and skills.

MCD is a system meant to provide access to agency, compassion, mindfulness, and wisdom. Personal transformation is achieved through practice with the12 Relationship Competencies and Nine Foundations, which arise from a central, life-serving intention.

Course curriculum

  • 1


    • Welcome! Download and Print this Handout for the Course

    • Getting the Most Out of Your Pre-Recorded Course

  • 2

    Emotional Security: Mindful Compassionate Dialogue Relationship Competency 11

    • Workshop Video

Be supported in your learning

  • Learning Schedule

    You will have access to the course for a full week in order to support your engagement with the material.

  • Get Questions Answered

    If you run into questions during the course, you can send us an email at

  • Live One-on-One Connection

    Private sessions with Wise Heart's MCD Companions are offered to you at a discount while you are enrolled in the course.