Is this you?

Do you want confidence that you can engage in successful negotiation with others while staying connected to your own needs and respecting another's needs?

You have been practicing Mindful Compassionate Dialogue or Nonviolent Communication long enough to know that it’s not easy to put into practice. You value the consciousness, principles, and skills and would like to trust that you can reliably communicate in accordance with them. You are especially interested in how to engage in collaborative dialogue that doesn’t get derailed by reactivity and is connecting and creative.

You want to be able to manage reactivity in yourself and meet it in others while you stay in dialogue. You are ready to learn how to stay grounded and connected in dialogue. You are ready to learn the nuanced awareness and subtle skills of Needs-based negotiation.

You recognize that learning Needs-based negotiation requires vulnerability and the ability to be present with uncomfortable feelings. You trust that the group structure we offer and your own resources will allow you to meet these challenges.

What is it all about?

Learning needs-based negotiation will give you a sense of ease and creativity as you face the most difficult situations in life. You will be able to enter into challenging dialogues with a confidence that all needs can be honored.

There are three key distinctions that make needs-based negotiation different from other forms of negotiation. First, in needs-based negotiation, the quality of connection is the top priority. We trust that when there is a particular quality of connection, collaboration and creativity become accessible.

Second, when the aliveness of needs/values in the present moment inform the process, we find truly effective strategies, solutions, and agreements.

Lastly, needs-based negotiation is inclusive. It rests on a confidence that each person can be equally honored and respected.

In this workshop, you will learn about these three concrete skills:

  1. Articulate the difference between needs based negotiation and other common forms of negotiation

  2. Identify and communicate three ways to set up a dialogue for success

  3. Learn the basic steps of Needs-based negotiation

Read more about this relationship competency here.

How it Works 

For each class we will begin with five minutes of guided meditation. I will present a particular concept and skill. Then you will practice the skill in a short structured exercise. You will hear questions and comments from previous participants both clarifying the material and debriefing exercises.

You will follow along with the video (60-90 minutes) and your handout. Some exercises you can do on your own and some are best done with another person.

As you take the course you can ask questions via email: [email protected]

While you are taking the course, you can also book a discounted session with an MCD Companion for one-on-one live support.

Thank you so much for your participation and dedicating your time and energy to this important work.

About Mindful Compassionate Dialogue

Mindful Compassionate Dialogue (MCD) naturally supports you in creating the relationships you want by integrating the wisdom and skills of three powerful modalities: Hakomi, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and mindfulness.

Each modality contributes something unique to the process. Hakomi offers clarity about reactivity and healing. NVC provides a method for achieving self-responsibility, skillful communication, and agency. And mindfulness adds the stable attention and clear focus needed to continuously refine your understanding and skills.

MCD is a system meant to provide access to agency, compassion, mindfulness, and wisdom. Personal transformation is achieved through practice with the12 Relationship Competencies and Nine Foundations, which arise from a central, life-serving intention.

Course curriculum

  • 1


    • Welcome! Download and Print this Handout for the Course

    • Getting the Most Out of Your Pre-Recorded Course

  • 2

    Needs-Based Negotiation: Mindful Compassionate Dialogue Relationship Competency 7

    • Workshop Video

Be supported in your learning

  • Learning Schedule

    You will have access to the course for a full week in order to support your engagement with the material.

  • Get Questions Answered

    If you run into questions during the course, you can send us an email at [email protected]

  • Live One-on-One Connection

    Private sessions with Wise Heart's MCD Companions are offered to you at a discount while you are enrolled in the course.