Is this you?
You want to be generous and kind, yet find that you are giving yourself away. You end up saying yes to more than you can or want to do. You wait too long in a given situation to set a boundary and then react angrily, later regretting what you said or did.
Or, perhaps you find yourself participating in toxic interactions and wish you could rely on yourself to set a boundary.
Maybe you want to be closer to others and find yourself feeling distant and disconnected regardless of your hope to be close.
You are ready to get clear about how to say yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no. You want the tools to determine what really works for you. You want to trust yourself to navigate relationship decisions with skill and wisdom.
What is it all about?
Having clarity about life-serving boundaries in relationships allows a greater sense of security and freedom. When you are clear about boundaries for yourself and others, you also know where you are free to play and grow together.
Life-serving boundaries are about honoring the life in you and another rather cutting off connection. Setting life-serving boundaries means having clarity about what really serves life or meets needs. It means making a conscious decision about how you will relate to another or behave in a particular situation while being able to remain heart-connected.
To set life-serving boundaries, you need to be able to recognize and honor your own needs, speak clearly about them, understand the verbal and behavioral language of boundary setting, honor the needs of others without taking responsibility for them, and engage in healing work with regard to your experiences of boundary violations in the past.
Learning to set life-serving boundaries is a competency that helps you embody an authentic life and live respectfully with others.
You can find many articles on life-serving boundaries in our archives. This one is a good place to start.
How it Works
For each class we will begin with five minutes of guided meditation. I will present a particular concept and skill. Then you will practice the skill in a short structured exercise. You will hear questions and comments from previous participants both clarifying the material and debriefing exercises.
You will follow along with the video (60-90 minutes) and your handout. Some exercises you can do on your own and some are best done with another person.
As you take the course you can ask questions via email: email@example.com
While you are taking the course, you can also book a discounted session with an MCD Companion for one-on-one live support.
Thank you so much for your participation and dedicating your time and energy to this important work.
About Mindful Compassionate Dialogue
Mindful Compassionate Dialogue (MCD) naturally supports you in creating the relationships you want by integrating the wisdom and skills of three powerful modalities: Hakomi, Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and mindfulness.
Each modality contributes something unique to the process. Hakomi offers clarity about reactivity and healing. NVC provides a method for achieving self-responsibility, skillful communication, and agency. And mindfulness adds the stable attention and clear focus needed to continuously refine your understanding and skills.
MCD is a system meant to provide access to agency, compassion, mindfulness, and wisdom. Personal transformation is achieved through practice with the12 Relationship Competencies and Nine Foundations, which arise from a central, life-serving intention.
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Getting the Most Out of Your Pre-Recorded Course
Life-serving Boundaries: Mindful Compassionate Dialogue Relationship Competency 8