Is this you?

You have been learning and practicing communication skills and managing reactivity with compassion for yourself and your partner. You are ready to take these skills to the next level and approach previously difficult dialogues in a whole new way.

You understand that habits like defending, blaming, convincing, and trying to prove you’re right don’t serve your relationship, or help to meet needs for anyone.

You also know that you don’t want to give in to old relationship dynamics with your partner or with your family of origin. You get that this means setting life serving boundaries and standing up for what is truly supportive to you and others.

With the ability to set boundaries and negotiate in honor of all needs present, you feel confident that you can learn the skills to create a thriving life and access resiliency in the face of difficulty.

What's it all about?

Creating a Shared Language: Better Communication for Couples is a comprehensive course that couples can access online and complete at home on their own schedule. The entire course is is 28 weeks long and organized around 12 Relationship competencies:

1. Appreciation 7.  Needs Based Negotiation
2. Empathy 8. Life Serving Boundaries
3. Honest Expression 9. Thriving & Resiliency
4. Self Empathy 10. Relationship Repair
5. Recognizing Reactivity
 11. Emotional Security
6. Managing Reactivity
 12. Healthy Differentiation

Each competency is defined and practiced through six skills that make up that competency. Each skill is defined in specific and doable terms so that you can be clear about whether you are using it or not. For each skill you will engage in a short exercise to help you understand and practice that skill. 

Part 3 focuses on the third set of three competencies: Needs Based Negotiation, Life Serving Boundaries, and Thriving & Resiliency. 

Each competency requires a subtle level of self-awareness and attunement to others, as well as specific skills practice. Read more about the third three competencies.

"Getting deeper into the content shines the light on more habits and conditioning to surface which is challenging and also promotes learning, growth and development."

"It was a helpful reminder of the benefit, for my well-being and for the well-being of our partnership, of being in touch with and savoring gratitude."

"Was helpful to take stock of the "aha" moments during the course and connect some dots of how this course helped build on other skills or knowledge I already had."

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How it works

  • Learning Schedule

    If you get behind, you have seven extra weeks to catch up. This format helps support you and your partner in your commitment to stay engaged throughout the duration of the course.

  • Weekly Reminders

    Each week, you will get an email reminder encouraging you to login and complete content for the course. You have the option to manage this feature.

  • Demonstrations

    Each week has three activities with demonstrations to help you get started in applying these skills in your relationship right away.

  • Live Connection

    Private sessions with Wise Heart's MCD Companions are offered to you at a discount while you are enrolled in the course.

Part 3 Curriculum

  • 1

    Welcome!

  • 2

    Week 1: Needs Based Negotiation

    • Benefits of Needs Based Negotiation

    • Check Point: Benefits of Needs Based Negotiation

    • Mindfulness

    • Objective 1

    • Check Point: Objective 1

    • Activity 1

    • Objective 2

    • Check Point: Objective 2

    • Activity 2

    • Objective 3

    • Check Point: Objective 3

    • Activity 3
  • 3

    Week 2: Needs Based Negotiation

    • Benefits of Needs Based Negotiation

    • Check Point: Benefits of Needs Based Negotiation

    • Mindfulness

    • Objective 1

    • Check Point: Objective 1

    • Activity 1

    • Objective 2

    • Check Point: Objective 2

    • Activity 2

    • Objective 3

    • Check Point: Objective 3

    • Activity 3
  • 4

    Week 3: Life Serving Boundaries

    • Benefits of Life Serving Boundaries

    • Check Point: Benefits of Life Serving Boundaries

    • Mindfulness

    • Objective 1

    • Check Point: Objective 1

    • Activity 1

    • Objective 2

    • Check Point: Objective 2

    • Activity 2

    • Objective 3

    • Check Point: Objective 3

    • Activity 3
  • 5

    Week 4: Life Serving Boundaries

    • Benefits of Life Serving Boundaries

    • Check Point: Benefits of Life Serving Boundaries

    • Mindfulness

    • Objective 1

    • Check Point: Objective 1

    • Activity 1

    • Objective 2

    • Check Point: Objective 2

    • Activity 2

    • Objective 3

    • Check Point: Objective 3

    • Activity 3
  • 6

    Week 5: Thriving & Resiliency

    • Benefits of Thriving & Resiliency

    • Check Point: Benefits of Thriving & Resiliency

    • Mindfulness

    • Objective 1

    • Check Point: Objective 1

    • Activity 1

    • Objective 2

    • Check Point: Objective 2

    • Activity 2

    • Objective 3

    • Check Point: Objective 3

    • Activity 3
  • 7

    Week 6: Thriving & Resiliency

    • Benefits of Thriving & Resiliency

    • Check Point: Benefits of Thriving & Resiliency

    • Mindfulness

    • Objective 1

    • Check Point: Objective 1

    • Activity 1

    • Objective 2

    • Check Point: Objective 2

    • Activity 2

    • Objective 3

    • Check Point: Objective 3

    • Activity 3
  • 8

    Week 7: Integration

    • Benefits of Integration

    • Check Point: Benefits of Integration

    • Mindfulness

    • Objective 1

    • Check Point: Objective 1

    • Activity 1

    • Objective 2

    • Check Point: Objective 2

    • Activity 2

    • Objective 3

    • Check Point: Objective 3

    • Activity 3
  • 9

    Post-Course Survey

    • Partner A Course Feedback Survey Instructions

    • Partner A Course Feedback Survey

    • Partner B Course Feedback Survey Instructions

    • Partner B Course Feedback Survey

What you get

  • 7 weeks of content

  • Access to the content for 14 weeks (access to the content cannot be extended)

  • Comprehensive reference handouts that you can keep

Flexible payment options

You can pay in full, or opt to pay three installments.

Save when you buy together

  • 12 x $89.00

    12 x $89.00Creating a Shared Language: Better Communication for Couples

    Save over $100 when you buy all four parts together
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