Is this you?

You have been learning and practicing communication skills and managing reactivity with compassion for yourself and your partner. You have learned what it means to maintain a needs-based consciousness as you enter into dialogue. You've at least begun to have a clear sense of your own boundaries and what truly works for you.

You understand the importance of maintaining your own sense of thriving and resiliency and how that affects the quality of your life and relationships.

You want to be able to trust yourself and your partner to be able to repair big hurts and ruptures in relationship.

You're ready to do the practice and self examination required to cultivate a sense of emotional security in yourself and celebrate healthy differentiation.

What's it all about?

Creating a Shared Language: Better Communication for Couples is a comprehensive course that couples can access online and complete at home on their own schedule. The entire course is is 28 weeks long and organized around 12 Relationship competencies:

1. Appreciation 7.  Needs Based Negotiation
2. Empathy 8. Life Serving Boundaries
3. Honest Expression 9. Thriving & Resiliency
4. Self Empathy 10. Relationship Repair
5. Recognizing Reactivity
 11. Emotional Security
6. Managing Reactivity
 12. Healthy Differentiation

Each competency is defined and practiced through six skills that make up that competency. Each skill is defined in specific and doable terms so that you can be clear about whether you are using it or not. For each skill you will engage in a short exercise to help you understand and practice that skill. 

Part 4 focuses on the fourth set of three competencies: Relationship Repair, Emotional Security, and Healthy Differentiation.

Each competency requires a subtle level of self-awareness and attunement to others, as well as specific skills practice. Read more about the competencies.

"Practicing coming from a place of security and celebrating differentiation is already helping me in my relationship. I can see my reactivity and its causes more clearly and feel more at choice in how I respond to the feelings that arise in me."

"Noticing an increase in our mindfulness and care with ourselves and one another as we groove in behavioral changes from doing this work together."

"I am reminded to identify and address my own reactivity before attempting to connect."

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How it works

  • Learning Schedule

    If you get behind, you have seven extra weeks to catch up. This format helps support you and your partner in your commitment to stay engaged throughout the duration of the course.

  • Weekly Reminders

    Each week, you will get an email reminder encouraging you to login and complete content for the course. You have the option to manage this feature.

  • Demonstrations

    Each week has three activities with demonstrations to help you get started in applying these skills in your relationship right away.

  • Live Connection

    Private sessions with Wise Heart's MCD Companions are offered to you at a discount while you are enrolled in the course.

Part 4 Curriculum

  • 1

    Welcome!

  • 2

    Week 1: Repair

    • Benefits of Repair

    • Check Point: Benefits of Repair

    • Mindfulness

    • Objective 1

    • Check Point: Objective 1

    • Activity 1

    • Objective 2

    • Check Point: Objective 2

    • Activity 2

    • Objective 3

    • Check Point: Objective 3

    • Activity 3
  • 3

    Week 2: Repair

    • Benefits of Repair

    • Check Point: Benefits of Repair

    • Objective 1

    • Check Point: Objective 1

    • Activity 1

    • Objective 2

    • Check Point: Objective 2

    • Objective 3

    • Check Point: Objective 3

    • Activity 3
  • 4

    Week 3: Emotional Security

    • Benefits of Emotional Security

    • Check Point: Benefits of Emotional Security

    • Mindfulness

    • Objective 1

    • Check Point: Objective 1

    • Activity 1

    • Objective 2

    • Check Point: Objective 2

    • Objective 3

    • Check Point: Objective 3

    • Activity 3
  • 5

    Week 4: Emotional Security

    • Benefits of Emotional Security

    • Check Point: Benefits of Emotional Security

    • Mindfulness

    • Objective 1

    • Check Point: Objective 1

    • Activity 1

    • Objective 2

    • Check Point: Objective 2

    • Activity 2

    • Objective 3

    • Check Point: Objective 3

    • Activity 3
  • 6

    Week 5: Differentiation

    • Benefits of Differentiation

    • Check Point: Benefits of Differentiation

    • Mindfulness

    • Objective 1

    • Check Point: Objective 1

    • Activity 1

    • Objective 2

    • Check Point: Objective 2

    • Activity 2

    • Objective 3

    • Check Point: Objective 3

    • Activity 3
  • 7

    Week 6: Differentiation

    • Benefits of Differentiation

    • Check Point: Benefits of Differentiation

    • Mindfulness

    • Objective 1

    • Check Point: Objective 1

    • Activity 1

    • Objective 2

    • Check Point: Objective 2

    • Activity 2

    • Objective 3

    • Check Point: Objective 3

    • Activity 3
  • 8

    Week 7: Integration

    • Benefits of Integration

    • Check Point: Benefits of Integration

    • Mindfulness

    • Objective 1

    • Check Point: Objective 1

    • Activity 1

    • Objective 2

    • Check Point: Objective 2

    • Activity 2

    • Objective 3

    • Check Point: Objective 3

    • Activity 3
  • 9

    Post-Course Survey

    • Partner A Course Feedback Survey Instructions

    • Partner A Course Feedback Survey

    • Partner B Course Feedback Survey Instructions

    • Partner B Course Feedback Survey

What you get

  • 7 weeks of content

  • Access to the content for 14 weeks (access to the content cannot be extended)

  • Comprehensive reference handouts that you can keep

Flexible payment options

You can pay in full, or opt to pay three installments.

Save when you buy together

  • 12 x $89.00

    12 x $89.00Creating a Shared Language: Better Communication for Couples

    Save over $100 when you buy all four parts together
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